GUIDANCE TECHNIQUES
(Adapted from "Early Childhood programs" by Read, Gardner, and Mahler)
Guides in Speech
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STATE SUGGESTIONS OR DIRECTIONS IN A POSITIVE FORM. A positive suggestion tells a child what he can do, rather than condemning what he's doing or about to do wrong. "Sand stays on the ground," rather than,"Don't throw sand."
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GIVE THE CHILD A CHOICE ONLY WHEN YOU WANT THEM TO MAKE A CHOICE. Learning to choose, within reasonable limits, is part of a child's growing to maturity. Putting a statement in question form, "Let's go home now, okay?" will allow the child to veto inappropriately, and, then, resist (i.e.,yell,cry) when his choice is not respected.
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USE WORDS AND TONE OF VOICE THAT WILL HELP THE CHILD FEEL CONFIDENT AND REASSURED A child may become frightened while climbing and need you to calmly "talk" him down while you stay close by.
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AVOID CHANGING BEHAVIOR BY ATTACKING THE CHILD'S SELF-RESPECT. Small children, when they are disciplened, do not understand that it is the behavior that is inappropriate; rather, they feel that they are "bad". Labeling words like "naughty" and "bad" tend to make a judgement about the child rather than tell him how his behavior affects you or needs to be changed.
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AVOID MOTIVATING A CHILD BY MAKING COMPARISONS, between one child and another, or by encouraging competition. The goal is for each child to be self-motivated. The result of comparison may damage the child's feelings of adequacy and friendliness as well as keeping him motivated by the values and concerns of others.
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REDIRECTION IS MOST EFFECTIVE WHEN CONSISTENT WITH THE CHILD'S MOTIVES OR INTERESTS. The problem may be that the child needs only to find an acceptable technique of expession; i.e., "I can't let you throw rocks, but you can throw this ball."
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EFFECTIVENESS OF A SUGGESTION MAY DEPEND LARGELY ON ITS TIMING. Timing may be as important as the suggestion itself. Advice given too soon deprives the child of a chance to work things out for himself-too late, and the chance may be past. The child may be too frustrated.
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AVOID MODELS IN ANY ART MEDIUM. Encourage creativity and development of skills (pinching and poking playdough, etc.). Avoid a frustrating comparison between products or a "right way" situation.
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GIVE THE CHILD A MININMUM OF HELP IN ORDER THAT HE MAY GROW IN INDEPENDENCE.
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FORESTALLING. Learn to foresee and prevent rather than mopping up after a difficulty. This kind of planning ahead may mean buying more than one kind of each toy or simply turning down the water pressure at a child's sink.
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LIMITS need to be carefully defined and consistently maintained.
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SUPERVISE STRATEGICALLY-have your back to something besides children.
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HEALTH AND SAFETY ARE A PRIMARY CONCERN.
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KNOWING the children and what each is likely to do is the key to utilizing all these guides effectively.
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OBSERVE
Guides in Action
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Trikes may be used only on the paved pathway.
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Children must go down the slide feet first and on their bottoms.
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Water play must be supervised by adults.
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Sand may be used in the sandbox only.
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If children want to jump, help them construct a safe platform in an uncongested area.
